Why feeling misunderstood is a trigger.

And to know that its not your fault you feel this way.

Nobody likes to be triggered, and I want you to know it's NOT your fault when you do.

Especially in the context of feeling unseen, unheard and misunderstood too.

To be honest, this has been the trigger for me for the longest time.

In fact, it still very much is.

Perhaps like me, you grew up in a family, that didn't really see you for you.

Where all you wanted was to feel validated for your feelings, but was told instead you were wrong or that you're just in a bad mood.

But a child unseen is a child that feels unloved.

And a child that perhaps feels unlovable too.

But that is why it's not entirely your fault my friends.

That you experienced a childhood like this, and that you have this trigger too.

But moving on you and I have an important task to undertake.

We need to do so to no longer react to our triggers, in unwanted ways such as anger and doing things that we regret doing too.

So search in, and go to these parts. Be the loving, hearing voice that you deserved but never had.

Do it so that the part of you that felt misunderstood, can learn to feel what safety feels like instead.

When you feel misunderstood, stop and search within.

Don't dismiss it, don't ignore it.

Otherwise we are repeating the mistakes of the past.

Instead, listen to what that part has to say.

Then try this, tell it how old you are. And ask it how old it is too.

Maybe it's a part of you from long ago, still hurting, but needs you to listen and tell it that it's safe and okay to feel what it feels.

This is your inner child. Connect to it, and through that you'll learn to heal.

Take care,

Hernping