On “other people have it worse”, imaginary suffering scales, and why pain was never meant to be a competition.

ACE, also known as Dropping the Anchor, helps us return to the present when thoughts, feelings, memories, or anxiety begin to pull us away. It uses three anchors of attention: acknowledge your inner world, connect with your body, and expand attention outwards.

Compromise is not just meeting in the middle. This worksheet helps couples slow down, understand what matters to each person, and build a practical agreement that both people can actually live with.