On “other people have it worse”, imaginary suffering scales, and why pain was never meant to be a competition.

ACE, also known as Dropping the Anchor, helps us return to the present when thoughts, feelings, memories, or anxiety begin to pull us away. It uses three anchors of attention: acknowledge your inner world, connect with your body, and expand attention outwards.

Compromise is not just meeting in the middle. This worksheet helps couples slow down, understand what matters to each person, and build a practical agreement that both people can actually live with.

Not every toxic parent looks toxic from the outside. Some control, some criticise, some disappear, some collapse, and some make their child responsible for their emotions. Naming the pattern can help us understand what we had to survive.

What happens when trying to become humble turns into losing the part of you that could still try

A book about music, memory, grief, and the people we used to be

Some grief does not begin when a parent dies. Sometimes it begins when we realise that the parent we had was not the parent we needed. These four questions can help us name what happened, what it did to us, what we needed then, and what we need now.

Why can one day of the year bring up so much sadness, shame, loneliness or grief? In The Birthday People, psychologist Hernping Ang explores the family wounds, expectations and private longings that birthdays can reveal.

How to Manage Addiction Urges: Four First Steps

And you struggle to pick yourself up again.

You are loved and remembered

Maybe you're heart is still learning that love is safe too.

I didn't, at least not intentionally.

The part of you carrying the burden of being better. For those of you struggling with a harsh inner critic, maybe you know this feeling too. That voice inside your head that always seems to find another flaw. Another mistake. Another reason to feel ashamed. The voice that says: “Don’t embarrass yourself.” “You should’ve done better.” “Don’t be too much.” And after a while, it can really start to feel like your own mind has turned against you. But I hope this post is making yo

A little project I'm working on for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and Complex Trauma