On “other people have it worse”, imaginary suffering scales, and why pain was never meant to be a competition.

Not every toxic parent looks toxic from the outside. Some control, some criticise, some disappear, some collapse, and some make their child responsible for their emotions. Naming the pattern can help us understand what we had to survive.

What happens when trying to become humble turns into losing the part of you that could still try

A book about music, memory, grief, and the people we used to be

Why can one day of the year bring up so much sadness, shame, loneliness or grief? In The Birthday People, psychologist Hernping Ang explores the family wounds, expectations and private longings that birthdays can reveal.

How to Manage Addiction Urges: Four First Steps

A little project I'm working on for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and Complex Trauma

A client and I sat with an interesting question in counselling today.

Signs of a Dysregulated Nervous System - is this you too?

Why money gives happiness for some and not others.

An in-depth guide to partners and care-givers.

The unlikely question that so many of my clients ask me.

An unexpected perspective I'm writing for my daughter (I believe in you)

Your daily check-in and time to "come home".

How to experience wonder even in small cities like Singapore.

A recipe for depression

For my client N - I believe in you.

And a guided practice to try along as well too. There’s a reason so many therapists — from cognitive scientists to trauma clinicians — talk about the power of writing. The simple act of putting words to what feels heavy inside isn’t just “emotional talk” — it can have real effects on your nervous system, your nervous energy, and even your physical health. And for many people, the fear that writing about trauma will make things worse is simply not supported by science. In fa

Have you ever wondered, “I KNOW I’m safe, so why don't I FEEL that way?”

And boy are these really tough questions too.