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TOAST AND THOUGHTS
A mental health blog by me and others :)


“Are we just made out of our past selves?”
A client and I sat with an interesting question in counselling today.
Hernping
May 74 min read


Seven Triggers No One Talks About (But Many Quietly Live With)
Signs of a Dysregulated Nervous System - is this you too?
Hernping
Apr 206 min read


Uh-oh, New Research suggests that Money DOES buy Happiness (but apparently not for everyone)
Why money gives happiness for some and not others.
Hernping
Apr 146 min read


Supporting Someone with Complex PTSD (C-PTSD)
An in-depth guide to partners and care-givers.
Hernping
Apr 135 min read


"Am I a Narcissist?"
The unlikely question that so many of my clients ask me.
Hernping
Apr 73 min read


Imagine that you died.
An unexpected perspective I'm writing for my daughter (I believe in you)
Hernping
Apr 53 min read


I made a Trauma-focused Companion App :)
Your daily check-in and time to "come home".
Hernping
Apr 14 min read


Awe isn't just found in Mountains.
How to experience wonder even in small cities like Singapore.
Hernping
Mar 75 min read


Learned Helplessness: When the Mind Learns That Nothing Works
A recipe for depression
Hernping
Mar 55 min read


Why You Can’t Let Go of a Narcissist — And How Healing Really Happens
For my client N - I believe in you.
Hernping
Mar 27 min read


Writing Through Trauma: How Expressive Writing Can Help Your Body and Mind
And a guided practice to try along as well too. There’s a reason so many therapists — from cognitive scientists to trauma clinicians — talk about the power of writing. The simple act of putting words to what feels heavy inside isn’t just “emotional talk” — it can have real effects on your nervous system, your nervous energy, and even your physical health. And for many people, the fear that writing about trauma will make things worse is simply not supported by science. In fa
Hernping
Feb 275 min read


What Is Polyvagal Theory — and Why You Need to Know About It
Have you ever wondered, “I KNOW I’m safe, so why don't I FEEL that way?”
Hernping
Feb 254 min read


10 Journal Prompts to answer "WHO AM I"?
And boy are these really tough questions too.
Hernping
Jul 8, 20252 min read


Sitting at the edge of a ship looking out at sea.
And feeling so ever insignificant. Do I matter at all? Written by Clary.
Clary
Jun 30, 20252 min read


''I feel like paper''
And I am just a little paper person, for all the world to see.
Clary
Jun 30, 20251 min read


A letter to my abuser.
Sharing this intimate story on behalf of "Stars" - someone who is finding her voice again.
Hernping
Jun 17, 202510 min read


FAILING my way into become a psychologist.
Don't give up, you will get there.
Hernping
Jul 19, 20242 min read


Hello IASH.SG 2.0 and also to our NEW HOME.
Bridging the gap in mental health and wellness care in Singapore.
Hernping
Oct 23, 20236 min read


What it really means to be "in control".
And learning to be safe, no matter what. So I've always been someone who likes to "plan things out". Because I'm sure you feel this way...
Hernping
Oct 20, 20232 min read


A random poem on "feelings".
Thanks for entertaining.
Hernping
Apr 23, 20231 min read
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