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It didn't start with you.

Here's why it's not your fault you feel broken.

To all those out there struggling with self-defeating beliefs and painful emotions, this post is really for you.

Because here's the thing, whether you know it yet or not.

Your struggles didn't start with you.


I want you to know that it's not your fault that your mind has been a difficult place to live in.

Or that your feelings have been too overwhelming to feel.

In fact, I'm wondering if you struggle with any of the below:

- Do you feel that you are unloveable?

- Or feel worthless and empty at times too?

- Do you feel like you're "too much" or "too little"?

- Or feel guilty, burdened, or that you often don't know how you feel?

If that's a yes for any of the above, then it's worth saying this again..

It didn't start with you.

These beliefs and feelings had to come from somewhere - have you ever thought about it?

Where did they come from and how long have they been there?


The truth is - trauma runs in families. Pain passed on from generation to generation.

Because our parents are humans themselves, and as humans they have their own suffering.

Perhaps these were broken visions of themselves (that they tried to live out through you).

Painful feelings that they didn't like (so they didn't like it in you too).

Beliefs that they were not capable of love or loving (and unwittingly neglected you).

Or going through too much themselves (and passed on their pain to you).

These are but just some examples of the pain being passed on, from our parents who had their own parents who were suffering too.

Generation after generation of people, passing on hurt because they didn't know any better.

And that's why to you out there, you are so thoroughly important.

Because even though it didn't start with you, the passing on of trauma and pain can and will end with you.

That's why I'm so proud to meet so many "cycle breakers" each week - together on our own journey to heal and love ourselves again.

So we can show others (and our kin) how to love themselves too.

You know who you are.

Let's keep going,



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