And you struggle to pick yourself up again.

You are loved and remembered

Maybe you're heart is still learning that love is safe too.

I didn't, at least not intentionally.

The part of you carrying the burden of being better. For those of you struggling with a harsh inner critic, maybe you know this feeling too. That voice inside your head that always seems to find another flaw. Another mistake. Another reason to feel ashamed. The voice that says: “Don’t embarrass yourself.” “You should’ve done better.” “Don’t be too much.” And after a while, it can really start to feel like your own mind has turned against you. But I hope this post is making yo

A little project I'm working on for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and Complex Trauma

And how to be here instead.

For N - and anyone going through a difficult

A gentler way for therapists, counsellors, and clients to capture what matters.

An Emotional-Focus Therapy (EFT) worksheet for couples to uncover their conflict cycles.

A client and I sat with an interesting question in counselling today.

A hybrid NAMES + Somatic Experiencing worksheet.

Signs of a Dysregulated Nervous System - is this you too?

A way of going in and finding safety in ourselves again. There are moments when something in us takes over. A thought loops. A feeling tightens .A part of us becomes loud, urgent, insistent. And before we know it, we’re no longer with the experience. We’re inside it. Trying to fix it. Argue with it. Push it away. Or make sense of it as quickly as possible. But sometimes, what’s needed isn’t more effort. What's needed is a different kind of attention. This practice is not ab

Here's why you didn't. “ I think I've failed therapy .” Was what someone once said to me just this week. And when you sit with this statement... there’s usually so much underneath this. Where maybe it means: “I thought I’d be further along by now.” Or otherwise: “Why am I still like this?” “Maybe I’m me. Maybe I'm just a failure.” -- And I get it. Because somewhere along the way, many of us learned that healing is something we’re supposed to get “right.” That if we try har