Not every toxic parent looks toxic from the outside. Some control, some criticise, some disappear, some collapse, and some make their child responsible for their emotions. Naming the pattern can help us understand what we had to survive.

A book about music, memory, grief, and the people we used to be

Some grief does not begin when a parent dies. Sometimes it begins when we realise that the parent we had was not the parent we needed. These four questions can help us name what happened, what it did to us, what we needed then, and what we need now.

Why can one day of the year bring up so much sadness, shame, loneliness or grief? In The Birthday People, psychologist Hernping Ang explores the family wounds, expectations and private longings that birthdays can reveal.

You are loved and remembered

A little project I'm working on for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and Complex Trauma

A brief checklist activity to learn find your values.

Being kind to the inner critic inside you.

Learning to accept difficult feelings and emotions.

Yes, rather click-bait title, but trust me on this, it'll really help.

Changing the way we respond to our stories.

A simple starter practice from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

A pre-cursor to creating a life worth living.

Don't let your past and fears define who you are.

Then why do we keep trying to struggle with them?

A metaphor for moving past fear.

Why you cannot control your thoughts and feelings.

What do you do when your thoughts don't have an off button?

This is Positive Psychology's Best Possible Self Intervention. Are you ready to reconnect with your long lost self?

This might sound counterintuitive - but it works!

Learning what we can and cannot control.

It's not your fault that you've grown up thinking you should control our thoughts.

It's about taking the time to be kind to yourself and changing your relationship to your own suffering.

If you’re going through a really difficult time right now, know that you're not alone and read this.