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The Greatest Story-teller on Earth: your mind.

Updated: Jul 27, 2021

Everyone of us has a story, what's yours?

(Part 5 of the Heal with ACT Series)

If you had to look back on your life and tell a story about it, what would you come up with?

Each of us live with stories of our lives. Whether you know it or not, we depend on these self-stories to help us get through each day and make sense of the world.

For example, if you think of yourself as a highly motivated and successful person, you might have a self-story around "I'm a successful person". This story will fuel you to go out each day, hustle hustle and get things done, and perhaps sell yourself as a miracle worker.

On the other hand, you might have a self-story around what a failure you are. This "I'm a failure" self-story pulls you away from potential opportunities, makes you withdraw from a job interview out of fear of judgment, or even sell yourself short when you talk about yourself to others.

You might notice in the above that we tend to mold our behaviours and actions because of our self-stories. This in turn helps to further reinforce and perpetuate our stories, making them become more and more real.

Research actually finds that 80% of our thoughts and stories have a negative content. Here are some examples of more self-stories, along with whether they are negative (-) or positive (+):

  • I'm a useless person (-)

  • I'm not good enough (-)

  • I'm a very special person (+)

  • I will never get better (-)

  • I'm a very likeable person (+)

  • I will never be happy (-)

Our self-stories can be positive or negative - but that's not really the point.

We've become so unaware of these stories, and take them as the absolute truth of who we are, that they've actually turned into something potentially harmful and disruptive. They start to feed into our anxiety, anger, depression, self-esteem, self-doubt and vulnerability.