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Healing is not losing ourselves.

Updated: Jan 4, 2023

Nor is it forgetting about our pain too.

I want you to know that you are not alone in this feeling.

Though this feeling will have profoundly different meanings for me and you.

In fact, this post was inspired by someone I spoke to a week or two ago.

Who amidst her struggles, thoughtfully questioned to me the below.

She wondered:

"What if I've grown so comfortable in this pain? That if I chose to heal, I'll lose all that I am?"

And her words stroke a chord in me, inevitably making me reflect on a past of my own.

A time when I was filled with so much hurt, past the verge of despairing.

But yet, a hurt that was so familiar.

The sadness and anger of that time uncontrollable, uncomfortable, but all parts of me that I've come to known.

Back then, the uncertainty of change scared me.

How could I embrace a different version of myself previously unimaginable?

But the truth is this, if I stayed in that state, you probably would never know me as of this day.

Nor I know you too as well.


So to that person, I gathered my thoughts and pondered the question.